These days my e-mail box is jammed full with letters from guys requesting for guidance on how to bring in ladies. Being a woman myself, I’m a bit on the fence as far as exposing the chick’s club trick code, but as an everlasting optimist when it pertains to love and relationships, I’ll do whatever I can to get everybody gladly coupled up.
So men, this month it’s your turn. Listed below you’ll discover some a mix of my preferred make-her-toes-curl moves, in addition to some fun bits from the countless ladies who write to me, informing me exactly what they look for in a man.
Be an Alpha male, or simply look like one.
According to Body Language Expert Patti Wood, you shouldn’t fold your arms or chew on gum, ice or your fingernails. Wood states, chewing indicates anxiety or disappointment, neither of which are extremely appealing feelings.
There’s more. Ladies are biologically drawn in to more dominant men, so stand high with your shoulders back. Do not hesitate to use up some area. Wood says appearing more dominant effectively draws female attention. To bring in ladies, stand with your feet 6-10 inches apart, and your toes pointing external.
For guys who are victims of the “nice person” badge, or who appear to be too submissive to bring in women, try taking your Y chromosome out for a spin. According to spatial psychologist Albert Mehrabian, males ought to “try using bulkier or more conservative hairdos or clothing,” hold your head up, and accelerate your speech and gestures to be more assertive.
Make your move.
The eyes have it.
As soon as you’ve zeroed in on a target, lock eyes with her for a full 5 to six seconds, then smile and drop your gaze. Do not stare a hole through the girl’s forehead for goodness sake, simply offer her a smoldering come-hither look and avert. Do this at least three times in a ten to fifteen-minute duration. Why? Your target has to understand it’s them you’re flirting with, and eye contact is a universal signal of openness. Then, make your move. Stroll up and start a conversation. Wait too long and they’ll likely lose interest.
Preen like a peacock.
We have the tendency to preen or groom ourselves subconsciously when we’re attracted to somebody, by smoothing down our hair or clothes, such as correcting your tie. Try combining a grooming gesture with a smile and a gaze.
Monkey see, monkey do.
Individuals mirror each other’s body language when they are brought in with comparable gestures, voice volume, etc. Attempt discreetly imitating your flirting target’s habits. If she leans forward, you lean forward. If he scratches his head, you scratch your head. If you are mirroring someone’s behavior, they’ll begin to feel as though the two of you are linked and “in tune.”.
Go in for the kill.
Once you and your flirting target have actually started talking, utilize these suggestions to deepen the attraction. Smile and preserve eye contact as they are speaking, and focus all of your attention on what they are stating. There is rarely anyone more appealing than someone who discovers you absolutely remarkable.
How to inform if a woman is flirting with you? Look for indications like extended eye contact, low-level touching and laughing.
Some tips for women – Read this awesome dating book called What Men Secretly Want, especially written for women who have had had to deal with men that suddenly become disinterested and disappear. This one can be a game changer for most women, as it discusses things that most other books don’t.